What do we know and can say about Physical Attraction. You know when you are attracted to someone correct? You know what you like and don’t like in a person looks wise, and you can immediately tell when you are physically attracted to someone - correct.
Is there all there is to it, or is there more? Lets take a closer look shall we.
The definition of physical attraction is fairly straight forward and the meaning and definition is the same all around the globe. It is when one person is attracted to the other based on how the look, express themselves, dress, and in some cases smell. There are those who even classify themselves as being attracted to people not based on physical attributes at all. I find that classification true but strange. Its like the old Seinfeld episode where she says she does not care how he looks - but would still find him attractive. As the character says - that can be an insult in some way. We all want to find ourselves attractive, regardless of shape, size, or style.
Physical attraction is as varied as anything can be in the world. Who accounts for someone taste, and why should you - he likes spicy, she likes cold, he likes sweet, she likes muscular. It goes on and on. For women, there have always been the 3 attributes - height, hair, and the butt. If you have all 3 men, you are ready to go. For men, it was always the face, then the body, and sometimes the face would take less importance if the body made up for it. Based on those criteria you would think then that physical attraction would be quite simple and straightforward. However, how many times have you heard someone say they were attracted to them regardless of their looks! It’s the old Woody Allen syndrome - people find him attractive despite him any physical shortcomings.
Is there such a thing as instant physical attraction? Some call it lust, others non existent, while others certainly believe it. I am in the camp it can be instant. For many men, or even the select few a woman can be more attractive by the clothes she wears. Find a woman with style, her own style, and her own physical meter rating just went sky high. Always find it odd when a man says I was instantly attracted to her by her body. Yes, but do we really know how good a body is underneath the clothes? Is it a mirage, spandex, girdle, plastic surgery, the list goes on. I remember a friend saying 90 percent of the women he sleep with the bodies while good on the outside, was not that good once the clothes came off. He has been depressed ever since, lamenting that someone women have tricked him into thinking they have excellent bodies when they don’t. He believes its some cruel joke played on him, and men in general by God. Ah, got you know he says, and it only gets worse.
I can empathize with him. I had that boy that body looks different moment, when I was in university. There was an amazing redhead of me in film class, great face. About her body, she would always wear the tightest jeans, and she had a butt that would make men cry. So, a definite instant attraction on my end (I cant speak for her at the time, but I hope she did have some, some! attraction). To make a long story short, after getting a few dates, it was time for the reveal of what I considered to be the best butt on campus.
Well, suffice to say I was disappointed. Instead of having a butt that was strong, athletic in shape, and proportionate to that jeans - it seemed once out of the jeans it exploded in size, as if jello was packaged too tightly. The best description which would be apt here would be a line I heard at Elton John’s wedding - when someone asked how he looked. And the reply was “It was like a 10 pound sausage stuffed in a 5 pound casing”! Bingo! Exactly. I kid you not, I am no longer excited as I was as before when younger when seeing a butt on a woman. Always thinking to myself, that could be a 10 pound sausage stuffed in there! Personally, I think all jeans should come with a warning sticker on the back - ass may not seem like at a distance or when opened. Buyer beware! The only caveat here, I have learned, that if the ass is loose in the pants/jeans then we have a potential winner possibly. No jello explosions here!
Remarks. There are those that say one cannot have a sustaining and fulfilling relationship based on physical attraction alone. That there must be something more to it. Of course, there has to be something more, however, I doubt there are very few relationships that occurred without it. However, there is a case to be made for that though. Some have stated, they found the other person to be physically attracted to someone after a matter of time, sometimes even a long time. I personally don’t buy that - I think the other party simply wore you down for so long, that you got attraction goggles. For example, I don’t fat man. After a while, she likes him, and says I find his shape attractive. Can you believe this type of physical attraction, is it genuine, or is it something else? I am in the camp definitely something else. The reason being, physical attraction is immediate, its when your brain shuts off, and the rest of your being comes to a consensus - I find that person hot, gorgeous, etc. There is no time to think. Its a first time see you, and immediately - bang - you know. There is no mining words or feelings here. People know when they are attracted to someone physically, and they know now.