I always made the argument that women have more choice than men when it comes to being dressed up and choosing ones clothes. I still stick to that observation regardless of the nay sayers.
Now lets get to the heart of the matter - getting dressed up or down for your upcoming date. What to wear? Well the good news is, most men’s fashion sense is not very good. If they find the woman attractive all faux paux will be forgiven and out the window they will go. Still, lets not take that risk, because there is nothing sexier in my book than when a woman has style. Not just any style, but her own style. Something that reflects her personality and beliefs. You can tell a lot by a woman dresses at times. Now lets go through some basic rules of dressing for the date.
General Rules
The first rule is, don’t change your style. By now, you know what works and what doesn’t work. You want to wear something that not only makes you feel good but also feel comfortable. Unless its a sophisticated elegant dinner no need to get dressed up the nines. Rather something simple, clean, and minimalist will always do the trick.
What happens you ask if I don’t like my style, or I need something to change my style? Who shall I turn to? No need to fret, there is an easy solution for this. There are a number of websites you can turn to fashion advice - throw a dart and you will find hundreds of fashion sites, Vogue comes to mind. But lets say, you still can’t make up your mind going through all these sites, or you simply don’t want to be bothered? The next easy solution, is a sure fire answer - simply jot down a few of your favourite stores or brands - lets keep the maximum to 5 sites. Go on these sites, and see what style and look you like. Once you decide, simply copy it. Yes, you may not have the exact look down - but that is not what’s important. Rather you copy the style and the colours approximately to come up with something that you know will look good no matter what. Let the experts do the work, and you take the fashion result.
Another golden rule of what to wear on the night out.
Make sure you dress for the date properly. That means if you are going to a ball game, you don’t wear a cocktail dress, and vice versa. Dress for the location and type of the event, match it up. You don’t want to go to a bar wearing a track suit, you get the idea. Be sensible, be rationale, and lay out a few different outfits out on the bed. Try them on, or choose one that you think looks good and go with it. Just stay within the fashion boundaries of wearing what’s right for the occasion.
Picked the right outfit, now what?
Well, the question then becomes is it the right outfit? Most people like bring it over the top, and change up the last minute. Avoid doing this at all costs. You don’t need to over dazzle anyone, especially your date. As long you go for a good balance i.e. Looking good but comfortable, you are good to go for the evening, or day. We don’t want the peacock affect do we, where you want all attention on you, and you only. Avoid this at all costs. All you want is the other persons attention, and that is the goal of the evening.
Colours.
Is this topic even necessary when going out on a first date? My own personal opinion no, but some people still insist on wearing garish colours. What I mean by that, almost any colour can look good. However, some colours look better on other people than you. So by now, you know what works for you, and what doesn’t work for you. We are not bringing out our rave glow in the dark neon colours on any date, unless of course, we are going to a rave that night. In the end, the best advice would be, as always goes the mantra, wear what makes you feel good. You know yourself best.
Minor Issues.
As the adage goes, accidents can happen, and best be prepared if at all possible. That means take a good once look over in any areas you think that can come loose, rip, or look at zippers, buttons etc. It may seem a bit silly, but you don’t want something to rip or break and make your evening become a possible embarrassment. Be cautious, do the quite one over now, and you are good to go for the evening.
Perfume anyone?
Again, how can you go wrong here, right? Well, be subtle with your perfume. Nothing worse when someone arrives and the whole room can smell them coming 100 yards away. Use your perfume sparingly, and again, be cautious, you know what is enough and too much. Final comment here on this topic, the smell or a perfume is subjective. So, that is an impossibility if your date will like it or not. Nine times out of ten they will. What we don’t want is some perfume that smells strong or pungent. Keep your perfume aroma like your outfit - subtle, minimalist, and good.
Conclusion.
I think we have all our basic fashion fundamentals covered here in a short amount of text. I know everyone wants to hit a home run in the fashion looks department. Its good to have that goal. However, what can often happen, is that people over do it. Really over do it! And when they do so, it does not bode well for the evening, or your confidence. The best piece of fashion advice that I can give here is, go for the triple. Its a great score, and you know, no matter what, you are looking great for the evening, and can enjoy your date, knowing you are a knockout!
Written by:
Hawthorne Leslie