Are you on the go for a luxury date? It’s not just about matching the looks. It is more about connecting with someone who matches your lifestyle. Here are five key pillars to finding a luxury date.
1. Not that Easy
Let’s not kid ourselves, nobody is going to hand you a luxury date just because you have an Instagram filter that’s making your life look perfect. To attract someone classy, you need to show them that you are the full package. To kick it off, I’m not saying fill your wardrobe with designer brands (although to be fair, a nice handbag wouldn't hurt). It’s about how you present yourself as a person. Make your space better — your apartment, your routines, your friends. If you’re always with people who are stuck, how are you going to come across someone who’s reaching for more?
Here’s a trick I learned: success does not come from doing what’s simple or doing just what others do. It comes from doing something that sets you apart. That might mean taking on a hobby most people would never do, like learning to sail or collecting vintage wines. It is equally important to show up confidently and gracefully, whether you’re at a networking event or brunch at a trendy restaurant. One should always “live a luxury life first, in order to get a luxurious date”. That means you shouldn’t wait for someone to come along and take you to fancy places. Be someone who takes them to fancy places.
Luxury dating is about alignment. If you want to attract quality people, you must be of quality and live a quality life. This includes.
Takeaways:
- Improve your style
- Take up upscale hobbies
- Build a social presence that shows style
2. Be in the Right Place
You always listen to “You will meet love when you least expect it” - but why?While this sounds cute, it is not a realistic scenario to the luxury dating game. In order to find your luxury partner, you must visit where they are. I am not talking about an overpriced rooftop bar with a neon sign and a $15 cocktail (that’s going to be a cult, not a luxury man). Take exclusive events like private wine tastings, charity galas and art auctions. If you want to meet a wine man, one who can tell Dom Pérignon from a cheap bottle of sparkling, do it on purpose.
But you’re not just there to show, you’re there to show the right way. I’ve seen it too many times to count. People waste their own potential because they have no idea how to work the room. Just being there is not enough, it’s about how you show up there: energy, confidence, presence and impression. Confidence, not desperation, is the key. If you're hanging out with high-standard people, it might be time to raise your own standards too! This is where your lifestyle prep pays off. Living luxuriously is not just about money but people who make you better and are better themselves.
You can't find a luxury partner on an app or in a bar. Go to places where rich and high status people go often.
Takeaways
- Go to exclusive clubs and private members only areas
- Go to High-end events like galas, and art exhibits.
- Try to get to luxury travel destinations on the cheap
3. Use and Compare Dating Platforms
Standard dating apps won’t cut it. You could consider high-end matchmaking services like Kelleher International, Iluvsugar.com. All right, I know what you’re thinking – dating apps are so 2015 – but believe me, when it comes to luxury dating, there are some hidden gems. The best part? You won’t have to deal with frequent messages of people who feel fancy means pizza in a dingy basement bar with hardly any lights on.
Apps like Raya (hi celebs) and The League are where the overachievers go to find someone who’s not just another 10/10. They're looking for brains and beauty and someone who’s just as passionate about their job as they are about their hobbies.
The secret to making these apps work for you? Don’t just swipe left and right hoping for magic. Take your profile seriously. Use good photos, not just vacation selfies. You also want to try to make your bio attractive. Write about more than just your hobbies; also write who you are and who you want to be. Effort is needed to do it, if serious about luxury dating.
I’ve swiped left so many times on profiles that don’t look seriously put together (but don’t worry, I feel the same about them). If you’re careful and choosy with your profile, then your matches will be as well. It's true! You will attract a person with similar energy. Don't worry, they are out there.
4. Master the Art of Conversation
When it comes to luxury dating, most people have no clue that it mustn’t always be about the money, cars, and the clothes. A genuine luxury date seeks a partner who can engage in a thought-provoking conversation, someone who’s worldly-wise and who’s not afraid to talk about their experiences. Do you know how to discuss the latest art exhibit? Can you name three wines that pair well with steak?
If you’re nodding along, you’re halfway there. However, if you are still not sure what a “luxury conversation” consists of. It's not for bragging rights for your knowledge; it is for showing that you are not just a pretty face but someone who is continuously learning, evolving and deepening their knowledge.
Let us face it, the most boring type of conversation is the one where a person only talks about their job and themself. I've had dates where someone goes on about their own stock portfolios, and I have to fake interest. A luxury date isn’t going to sit through that.
They want someone who can discuss their goals and passions but can also take an interest in other people, someone who knows how to listen well but talk to others too. The mindset, not just the aesthetics, is important in the luxury world. Don’t be just a pretty face, be thoughtful and intelligent, and most of all, ask questions.
Looks get attention, but class keeps it. If you want to stand out in the luxury dating world. Do the following:
+ Try to master good social grace.
+ Develop an appreciation for art
+ Engage in “smart” conversations
5. Set Your Standards High
If you're not picky about who you date, chances are you won't get a luxury date anytime soon so just start saying 'no'. And that means vetting your matches carefully. Just because their Instagram feed is nice doesn’t mean everyone you meet will be your type.
Know your worth and do not lower your standards. Do they align with your goals? Are they emotionally available? Do they actually show up in the ways that matter? A luxury partner isn’t just about having money or status. It means having morality, knowing how to behave and having someone who can put money into your future.
Listen, I’ve been there. I have had enough dates which felt promising but have lost the charm quickly as I overlooked a few warning signs. People think a luxury date is a date who spends big money. However, a luxury date is anyone who’s invested in you because they see you as a high value human being. If you are continuously settling for him then it is time to up your standards.
You're worth it, and when you start seeing your own value you’ll attract the kind of dates that make you sweat. Remember, luxury isn’t just about what they drive or wear; it’s about how they treat you and make you feel.
Luxury dating means prioritizing quality over quantity. Be selective and ensure your date aligns with your values.
A luxury date is about exclusivity and refinement rather than just being rich. If you possess these qualities, you will naturally attract the kind of partner you desire.
+ Are they successful?
+ Do they believe in kindness, and charity?
+ Do they treat you well?
Conclusion
Up close, it becomes evident that, at the end of the day, luxury dating is less about who you meet and more about who you are. When you create a high-value lifestyle and engage in the right environments, you will attract the right people.
Whether you’re in Monaco, clinking champagne flutes with a potential partner, or enjoying a simple break with your partner in a quiet art gallery, you must be connected to the world you want to attract. You will discover a wealthy partner. The real question is whether you’re ready for that world.
Keywords
- Luxury dating
- A High value lifestyle
- An exclusive relationship
- Elite social circles
- A Sophisticated romance
- A Luxury traveler
Rich Man Questionnaire
- How close are you to a luxury lifestyle?
- Have you ever been to an exclusive event?
- Is something stopping you?
- What 2 qualities do you seek in a mate?
- How do you go about mingling in a luxury event?
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Written By: Julia Stowles B.A., B.A.,
About the Author: Julia Stowles former model and style fashionista for 20 plus years.
Disclaimer: Sugar and Style is subjective. It is part confidence and part good taste.