We all know what a blind date is, or do we? Does it exist in this day and age? Is antiquated or still relative? Let us take a closer look shall we.
Introduction
Going on a blind date has become an interesting and novel experience. When you go on an arranged date, you are definitely taking a chance on someone you meet for the first time, without a clue about who they are or what they look like. Even so, you still have to keep your options open and take risks for a good time.
The experience will definitely be easier and smoother if you know the important principles of a successful blind date, whether you are interested in romance or just an interesting conversation. Use the below 6 pillars to help you remain confident, authentic, and respectful when going for your blind date.
1. Open Mind
Avoid fixed expectations.
Entering a blind date with fixed expectations about how your date ought to look like, behave like, etc. Simply approach your date with curiosity as opposed to anything that needs to be ticked! You never know what amazing things can come from strange pairings! Try to get to know the person rather than getting impressed by them!
Embrace A Difference
In this case, we try not to judge their character based on the impression they create. Don't be too hasty to judge your date! They may just have a different opinion or cultural background or had a different life experience. Never see differences as barriers but rather an opportunity to learn and broaden your views. You might not always be on the same page, but if you keep an open mind, we are sure it can make for an interesting conversation.
Do you give it Time?
It's ok not to feel a spark, but give it a little time before you decide. A lot of strong relationships start slow. Don’t discard the date too quickly if you don’t feel the chemistry immediately. Let your date show off their charm before deciding if you could see a future.
- Go to your date without and strong expectations
- Don't be set on a particular type right away
- Give everyone a fair chance before judging them
2. Effective Communication
Ask engaging questions
The key to a good conversation is asking open-ended questions. Go beyond small talk although that will be the beginning. Instead of asking, “What do you do for work? Try, “What do you enjoy doing most in your work?
The above statement is encouraging people to make mistakes. When you ask a question, here the other person gets a chance to share their personality and experience, and gives an insight. Ask sincere questions showing a desire to know a person more.
Don’t hold back on the compliments
Always make the person feel special by throwing in a compliment or two whenever it is possible during your conversation. As your partner passes on a message, stick to what they are saying and not what you will say. Make sure to acknowledge your date by making eye contact, nodding and using follow-up questions or comments about what they said. Doing this will ensure that the overall chat feels more smooth and natural.
Have an equal conversation
For conversation to be good and flowing, it must feel like a game of tennis between both parties. Both parties must spend the same amount of time chatting with each other as much as possible. Don't become too engrossed with your own thoughts during the conversation but don't be too passive either. Make sure that your share of the conversation is no less than your date’s. Best date happens when both parties feel like they are in the game.
- Be honest about your intentions
- Try to ask engaging questions
- Make sure you actively listen to what they are saying
3. Confidence & Authenticity
Be yourself
It’s easy to feel pressure to impress on a blind date, but pretending to be someone you’re not will only backfire in the long run. Just be who you are and say what comes naturally – pretending to be someone you’re not will backfire in the long run. You have interesting quirks, so don’t hide them away and keep trying to fit the ‘ideal’ picture perfect mold.
Acknowledge your nerves but your are in control
Don't allow them to take over. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way since you are meeting someone new. Don’t Let the Nerves Win. Acknowledge your nervousness with a laugh or an honest reply! Saying something as simple as “Wow, I always get a little nervous on first dates” can ease the tension a lot. Being confident doesn’t mean you never have butterflies in your stomach.
Positive Body Language
Avoid fidgeting and try to sit/stand straight while making eye contact. Stand tall, hold those peepers' eyes, and give a charming grin so they know you’re engaged. Don't cross your arms or look down at your phone - you'll come across as uninterested and closed off. When you appear more approachable and friendly, your date will find it easier to connect with you during the date.
- Don't pretend to be someone you're not.
- Own your strengths and differences
- Approach the date confident but not arrogant
4. Respect & Courtesy
Be punctual and considerate
Arriving on time shows that you respect your date’s time and are taking the meeting seriously. If you have no good reason to be late, it really does not create a good first impression as it makes the other person feel less important. Contact me and apologize for being late if you are going to be late.
Always be Polite
Saying “please” and “thank you,” holding the door open and complimenting your date on their planning effort are basic manners that matter! No matter what happens during the date, thanking your date for their time and company has a positive impact.
Respect the person's boundaries
Give space and differences their due - Not all dates need to end up in romance.' If your date doesn't want to meet again, don't push for answers, just take it like an adult. Also, no go affecting someone’s personal space—physically or emotionally. Talking to your date and watching their body language can tell you whether they are comfortable with you or not.
- Have good manners .
- Respect personal boundaries .
- Avoid controversial topics
5. Have Some Humor
Be ready for anything
Because the surprises on blind dates are part of the adventure. Don’t stress the small stuff; see it as an adventure! You never know what surprises a blind date might have in store, so don’t sweat the small stuff. Having an open attitude makes the experience enjoyable no matter how it goes.
Laugh it off
It’s completely normal for things to peek awkward so laugh at the moment. There could be an accidental spilling of food, a lull in conversation or a mishap. Don't feel embarrassed; use it as a talking point! People appreciate when you laugh at yourself; it makes them feel at ease around you.
Focus on fun first, it's easier.
Don’t get too serious – Just have fun rather than looking for romance too deeply. If you keep stressing on the fact of whether this date will turn into something serious, you will lose the essence and excitement of the date. Look at it this way: You’re meeting someone to enjoy their company over a drink, have a nice chat, and maybe even make a friend. When you focus on having a good time, you become more appealing and enjoyable to be around!
- Keep the energy light .
- Laugh off awkward moments they can happen!
- Focus on having a good time rather than just on romance.
6. Safety First Always
Public Space Date
Pick a first date hotspot that’s public; think coffee shop, restaurant, public place or an open air cafe. Being in a safe and secure surrounding is ideal for a date to happen. To better get to know each other, don’t meet up in secluded spots or someone’s house. Public settings also allow for an easy exit if needed.
Always Tell Someone
Always be sure to let someone -friend or family -know of your plans. Let your loved ones know about your whereabouts, curfew and the person whom you are meeting. 17 words. A quick text check-ins during and after your date ensures someone knows your whereabouts.
Trust your Gut!
If a situation does not feel good, listen to yourself. It is okay to draw a line. Don't stay longer than needed in an uncomfortable situation. Don't remain on a bad date. If you think you need to go home, say it. Your wellbeing comes first, so don’t ever be afraid to secure yourself.
- Meet in a public place for the first date.
- Inform a friend or family member about your plans.
- If your gut tells you something is wrong, trust it.
Conclusion
Blind dating is a great opportunity to meet new people, go out of your comfort zone and make a meaningful relationship. To make your dating experience even better, open-mindedness, communication, confidence, respect, positivity and safety should always be kept in mind. All dates may not be successful but every date presents the opportunity to learn and refine what qualities you want in your prospective partner.
TAKEAWAYS
1. When dining in a restaurant, it is always a good idea to keep your options open.
2. A good conversation is about 50% speaking and 50% listening, so don’t forget to engage your date in active listening too.
3. Just Be Yourself - People appreciate authenticity and honesty, so be yourself.
4. Be cordial, even when there is no chemistry involved; a romantic relationship could still sprout.
5. Have Fun – Being positive makes the encounter go smoothly.
6. Always meet in public and listen to your gut – safety first!
Blind Date Questionnaire
1. On your date did you go in with an open mind? To listen? If not, why?
2. Did the conversation flow? Were there any awkward moments? Why do you think this?
3. Were you yourself, or did you try to change at times?
4. Did you learn anything about your date that surprised you?
5. Did your date make you feel comfortable? Were you respected, or were they rude and boring?
1. Written By: Anthony Rand. B.A., B.A., LL.M.
2. About the Author
Anthony Rand is a relationship expert with over 35 years of experience in the dating world. He has helped individuals navigate the complexities of modern relationships. He has authored numerous articles on topics ranging from online dating strategies to building lasting relationships. He holds degrees, including an LL.M. (Master of Laws) and two Bachelor of Arts degrees.
3. Disclaimer
Please remember, there is much variation and diversity in life. Within this variation come various expectations and differences. What may work in the article above may not work for others. While this article does provide great insight and strong fundamentals it cannot answer all the issues. It is limited in its scope, since every relationship is different. Follow your heart and mind to see what works best for you.
Updated February 10, 2025