Let us discuss bisexuality and the dating relationship that could come from it, as well as how difficult or easy it may be to find love and dating in the new dating world.
The simplest definition of bisexuality is someone whose sexual orientation, allows them the ability to fall in love or have some form of sexual attraction to more than one gender, either being male, female, binary, or all the other genders on the present day umbrella gender group. This essay will explore the availability of bisexuality orientation in a wide range of experiences and abilities one has and their dynamic dating relationship in the modern world. As well as the problems and challenges of being bisexual in the dating world. This also includes the ability to also have not simply intimacy or a sexual relationship, but to find love as a bisexual individual.
Many who are bisexual often often state that they are misunderstood or sometimes grossly misrepresented by not only the straight community, but as well as the lgbtq community. And as such, they can face discrimination, not only within their own community, but in the larger, broader context of society. They continually repeat the mantra that they are bisexual. That It is not a choice. It is distinct in its own orientation of sexuality. It is not a phrase. Being bisexual therefore comes with its own many individual characteristics and criteria which we will state here below.
The first obvious criteria for being bisexual is ability to be attracted to different genders whether male, female, binary, or are there any other gender you may find under the gender umbrella? They will say this also includes the ability to fall in love with transgendered individuals as well. Another positive that they argue for those who are bisexual, that they have the ability to love and be attracted at any particular time or any particular moment, day from day, week from week or month by month. The ability to be fluid is 1 of the main primary criteria. in being a bisexual individual.
This fluidity, they argue, that it is often just like themselves not understood properly by society in a larger context, nor within certain sectors of their own community. Being fluid is often misunderstood and either confusing to the larger society in groups. Bisexuals would argue and state fluidity depends on the individual and the context. Let us look briefly at the various errors, challenges, and questions the greater society has about bisexuals.
One of the most common myths and one of the most prevalent myths is that somehow bisexuality is a stopgap, simply a phase that one will grow out of. It has also looked at times as if not simply as a phase, but as a trend. Bisexual individuals will argue strenuously against it that it is not a phase. It is not a trend, nor is it a stopgap. This is who they are. This is who they identify. Bisexuals will state just like heterosexuals or homosexuals, that they are born Bisexual, it is not a choice, and there is no other time will they change.
Another interesting problem for the Biseuxal individual is a term that they call bi- erasure. This is what they refer to when they become invisible, not only to their own LGBT community, but as well as a society in large. That somehow being bisexual is invalidated as simply once again being a trend, and that one cannot be bisexual. One has to make a choice. Either one is gay or either one is straight. This ability or feeling of being erased as a bisexual individual, they say degrades their sense of self worth and identity.
Another myth that they will argue is the lack of commitment in a bisexual relationship. That in some way is bisexual are more likely to cheat on their significant other. That they are likely to engage in more sexual promiscuity than those who are not bisexual. The belief here is is that you have double the chance. You’re not only attracted to one sex, you’re attracted to both sexes. Bisexuals would argue this is simply not the case, whether their attraction is limited in 1 sex or 2 sexes, or both sexes, that is their choice and has nothing to do with their ability to have a permanent relationship and a loving relationship
Now, what these myths can do is simply not stereotype certain classes of individuals, but offer significant damage and challenges to those individuals that identify as bisexual. Let us look at a few examples, shall we? Bisexual speak of these problems in several different manners. One of the major manners is the. invalidation of their own self identity. They feel in some way they are degraded or made invisible, which allows them to become much more negative in their outlook on life and their outlook and potential future relationships. This allows a whole host of feelings of negativity that they say can cause serious damage to both their sense of self worth and their self of wanting to belong to a greater community.
Bisexuals also speak of a particular type of discrimination, which they call bi- negativity. This means that any individual who suggests or believes that they can have a relationship with a bisexual individual comes in with certain prejudiced notions of what a bisexual person is and what they can bring to a relationship. This results in bisexuals’ belief of potential problems in the near future in both their satisfaction and intimacy levels with a new mate.
Bisexuals will agree that being bisexual brings certain different dynamics and issues depending on whether they’re dating a woman or a man or any other gender. This individuality is a great thing they believe as well as fluidity which brings possible future relationships and love. They can agree it is often complex. However, the positive attributes it can bring includes great diversity and the ability to love others who may be the same or different of them both in gender and sex.
To conclude, bisxuals will argue that by being a bisexual and being in relationships that are bisexual - having love and a serious relationship can offer many unique qualities and attributes not only to themselves, but to their partner or partner’s. That society should accept them and they’re sexuality like they accept homosexuality. and heterosexuality as normative states of sexual standard being.
Written By: Joyce DeWitt.